In a relationship. If the fighting ever becomes about who said what, when, and how in the last fight, it’s time to get out. It’s a really simple barometer for what the focus of the relationship is and how the partners treat each other.

In a healthy relationship the arguments are about how people feel and what should be done to correct it. In an unhealthy relationship arguments are about proving sides and earning points.  Arguing over the transcript of the last fight is just people trying to verify their points.

This isn’t healthy.

(via Punfree @ reddit)